We all tell lies at some point in our lives. Young children are unable to tell lies. But as we get older, we understand the difference between truth and deception. Most of us tell “white lies.” A white lie is an untruth we tell to avoid hurting other people’s feelings. White lies stop people feeling uncared for, unloved or upset. For example, we often tell a friend or a loved one that their special birthday present was “lovely” rather than the truth of “horrible” or “tacky”. Experts tell us that lying is an “unavoidable part of human nature”. If this is true, how can we tell when someone is lying to us?
Recent studies show that lying takes longer than telling the truth. There is nothing new in this. Shakespeare famously said, “What a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive”. The first sign of a lie is that the person who is lying needs to justify the lie by giving you more and more reasons to believe what he is saying.
Every recent study shows that lying is equally difficult for the body as a whole. Our bodies work harder when we try to tell a lie. Interestingly, people seem more able to tell when someone is lying over the phone!
Apparently, we speak more fluently when we are lying. This is partly because we rehearse our lies to be sure that they sound convincing. Research tells us that when we are in front of the person we are lying to, our body language helps us to mask the lie. Equally, when we write a lie, we make sure we persuade our reader that we are telling the truth. It is only when a person listens to our voice as we tell a lie that we are truly exposed. If you want to get away with a lie, never lie to someone on the telephone.